First aid?

[Bisoccer]

He's a good guy who will stop for a while if I have to safe word. I'd just much rather not, or at least less often.

Refer back to mine and Darkness's previous messages.  I'm not sure you're in a good situation with this person.

I'm sure I am in a good situation . He's being a bully because I asked and enjoy nearly abusive behavior. I like to challenge him to make me say the safe word. Once I do he shifts gears and is perfectly nice, gentle and considerate, which is his natural state. I literally told him he could hurt me because I enjoy pain, and he's just being accommodating to my interests. If I ask him to stop because he's hurting me, he doesn't have to. He has to if I say "Kentucky" though and does.